Yes for those who asked, everyone is home. They were really only gone about 5 days although it seemed like forever. Thank goodness T was here with me. The teenagers behaved well in their father's absence. The daughter in law spent all her time here! The kiddies were wonderful most of the time.
Since they drove, S thought the visit to her family wasn't long enough, R couldn't wait to get back from what he says. And the 24 yr old had a nice time. That's their trip in a nutshell lol
Life goes on here. It's the dog days of summer, it's Texas, it's freakin hot! I find the gas prices so awful I hesitate before I go out job hunting. I was hoping to get something part time at like Bath and Body Works (thinking wonderful thoughts about the discount!) they took my application but haven't heard as of yet. R says probably will hear couple months before Christmas.
I'm starting to miss my friends back home and all the socializing that I didn't do lol..well I did on occasion. I'm worried about making friends at a job and not being able to bring them home.
I've become very attached to the grandkids here but I am feeling alot of guilt about being so far from my own new grandbaby and my kids.
R and I had our first big fight this past friday. Gee, guess how it got started? Come on you can guess. Right before dinner I noticed that you could see thru S's white bathing suit. So I mentioned it to her. S, hon, are you aware that your bathing suit becomes see thru when it's wet? R snaps! Stop picking on her. We both ignore him. Dinner is served, we're relaxing at the table and he said L, why don't you just tell her you can't stand her? You don't like her, tell her. JeeezLouiiiiisse! That was a shocker. So one thing led to another and we went on and on. T retreated. S didn't know what to do. And I got MAD. Really mad. R, instead of being the R we all love and know, got mad that I got mad! I got mad that he was being so TYPICAL. ugh. It wound up that R, S and I stayed up all night till about 6 am. By Saturday night we were fine. But that was a long day. And I don't want it to ever happen again. He really feels that we all pick on her but he didn't expect me to. hahaha I have to laugh at that really. I was born in to a very critical family. We are a tough bunch, tough on each other, but we never stop loving. R feels that with family especially, one should look the other way at some flaws. He's probably right but damn!
So, since then, S and I have been doing our trying to bond routine every day or so. I just want to get to a place where we know where each other stands and no one feels terrible and R is happy.
The 15 yr old is another story. I have gently expressed to R that I can't be the enforcer all the time. I will say though, that as good a kid as he is, there are just too many people here for him to have friends over 24/7 just because it's summer. So last night, when he and his friends woke S up at 1 am as they sat at the kitchen table yakking away and being loud, I took up for S. Yes I did!!!
She was grateful, but the kid got ticked off and then R had to do the stern father routine which he is pitiful at by the way. Point being for me is that I didn't win any brownie points for taking up for S and the kid was moody toward me until tonight. Gosh. It's hard going through the teenage years again.
S and I had an interesting discussion over the idea of R finding a 4th. The three women here are in agreement...NO WAY. R teases us because he is a tease and poor S takes him seriously. So I had to explain her husband of 16 years to her!!! AGAIN. I am sympathetic toward her, I hug her and let her vent. I try to get her to laugh or smile when she gets this insecure thing going. I'm not an ogre~
but boy, I would never have picked such a high maintenance wife to live with if it had been my choice. She's lucky I wasn't number 2.
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My dear friends who are reading this, I don't seem to have the time or energy to be scouring the boards and posting alot right now. I haven't left, I look through the posts and occasionally reply, but right now I'm dealing with getting used to things, getting along with everyone, and missing my kids. I am still here though.
