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home alone with T and lovin it etc
This sure is an interesting few days. R and S and his oldest son on a road trip to PA to see S's family for her parent's 50th. I thought it would be horrible, but it's not. It's relaxing. Of course we are babysitting the grandkids when their mom is at work, and the 15 year old son is here as are a friend or two of his on and off, so it's not exactly lonely.
Plus T is easy to be with. She loves to run errands lol, I still don't know my way around all that much. She does her Avon and I do my writing. The little ones are a handful but sooo cute. I really love them, but I miss my new grandbaby. I'm nagging them to get a web cam so I can see him that would be fun.
R calls a few times a day, he is so good about keeping in touch. This is one of his traits I really appreciated when we lived apart and so many miles away from each other. He's definitely not one of those men that has a hard time communicating. S hasn't called or come to the phone to talk, which is just as well. What would we say to her? Other than are you having a nice time, I can't imagine what else. She does love to chatter though which explains the peace and quiet here in her absence. Poor J (R and T's son) and R, I can just imagine that road trip! lol...I'm not being mean honestly, I think insecure people just love to hear themselves talk.
It's amazing how patient and tolerant R is of her chatter, god bless him. My ex would have kicked her out of the car 50 miles down the road. I think the patience and ability to listen or at least try to listen is the first thing that attracted me to R. My ex would just tell me to shut up please, can't you stop talking? I swear. And then there would be no one to talk to. One of the pluses of polygamy, there is ALWAYS someone to talk to.
You know what I find strange? Before I moved here, I was obsessed with sex. I admit it. I thought about it, I talked about it, had constant polygamy sex questions for R and others lol...I rarely think about it anymore unless I focus on it. It's certainly not a problematic thing and I thought it would be.
I thought I would be raging with jealousy all of the time. I'm not. I thought I would listen at the bedroom door...um I sure as hell don't do that..I was certain that every time S smooched all over R I would scream! ok, I do cringe occasionally but not daily.
I know one thing. I think I moved here at exactly the right time for me, except for the fact that one of my children up and made me a grandmother unexpectedly soon. That is the only thing about my former life I am missing crazily. I sometimes miss my lifestyle, my good friends, i miss that damn couch I got that was like a dream haha really it was, and I miss coming home to a perfectly clean house...but that's it. Nothing horrible. No terrible homesickness at all. My home, is here where I belong. R said that, and he was right.
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hei LSM, i finally finished through all your posts.. its been busy so I dropped in and out to read
looking forward to new posts.. are they back already?
LISM,
Glad that you are settling in and feeling at home. I wonder if you and S stayed home while T and R went off far a few days, if it would help you bond? I know what you mean about people who chatter all of the time though. My mother will do that and, bless her, sometimes it drives me crazy. I just let her rattle on, most of the time. Sometimes, though, I will tell her I have a headache or she will call while I am eating and even though I tell her, she barely pauses! Enjoy the (relative) quiet while it lasts!
Yer like a miracle, kid. It's surprising how well you have taken to the life and adjusted your attitudes.

I personally think that we are so obsessed by sex because we are constantly bombarded by it in the media because that's the easiest way for them to sell us the garbage they produce.

I think it's much more natural for men and women to think about family than to constantly focus on where their next orgasm is coming from. Of all the HBO series I've watched I think "Sex in the City" is my least favorite -- all that unattached, meaningless search for sex -- is that all their lives mean to them?

Anyway, I hope you all are able to smooth out the rough spots with S -- sometimes people need to change themselves radically to be part of a group -- especially when their basic values conflict with group values.