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Sometimes I just don't know.
Here I am sitting here after a meal I've cooked and cleaned up after. It's my day, both T and S are still at work. R is taking a short nap.
This has been a complicated week to say the least. There are times when I wish I had religious reasons for living this way, then at least there would be a "higher" purpose. Someone to pray to for guidance. Don't get me wrong, I pray when I feel the need.

So R says S overheard me talking about her and is furious. It turns out he said something to her and she thought he wouldn't possibly say that so he must have heard it from me lol..gosh how complicated right?

What he said was..."It's all about S." I had to laugh because I've heard him say that on a few occasions out of frustration.

They are going on a trip to see her parents for a few days. 4 to be exact. I'm not jealous which shocks me.

But it is annoying because of the finances and because it leaves T and I to be in charge of the kids. Not an easy task. R is so strongly the head of the household, that this has never been a consideration before.

Well, he doesn't really want to go. He has to pretend they are monogamous first of all. Secondly, it's very costly this time of year especially. And thirdly, well all those hours alone with S yakkin away could get on ones nerves, but of course he doesn't say that.

Man, can she talk.
After the hullabloo over the comment she "overheard" she first wrote me a letter, didn't show it to me. Instead I made her sit and talk to me. OMG. never again. Must have been 2 hours. Maybe more. On and on about how she knows she's a selfish, greedy and needy person but that's just the way she is. She never wanted to be polygamous. Yay I got ther to admit it outloud. She accepted it but she thought he would stop at 2. She likes me. Loves me as a sister. BLAH BLAH BLAH. iT WAs nice, but it was exhausting because she repeats herself. I heard her whole life story over again. She tells me it at least twice a week or at least some huge segment of it.
It of course covers how and when and why she fell for R.
Get over it !!!

Actually, she has some good qualities but her jealousy for all her religious bible pumping poly beliefs is greater than mine even.

I really need strength to deal with her. As I told R, I didn't know I had signed on to be a babysitter. Gosh. T laughs when I say this. God bless T. She is a gem. R should kiss the ground she walks on.

This week I was missing having my own house. I hope someday we can do that. There are nice things about being here all together like seeing R every day and evening even if it's not my day. But it's hard to stay out of the way and it's even harder to see all the smooching. I'm getting used to it. But somehow I don't think it's necessary. S is a strong believer in smooching. If I let her she would probably kiss me! Thankfully NOT.

So this will be interesting the four days without R. It will be quiet for sure, no constant yakking in the background, but I will miss him. He will return on my day, Monday! Probably tired from traveling..maybe I can negotiate something....lol
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lol duets you read that wrong hon, it's S that doesn't tell, not R. :)
Whew,

Best O' Luck, it sounds like you're doing and saying all the correct things. Some people may not adapt as swiftly as others. And, afterall, I'm sure it's hard to get use to a new wife; when you are thinking that no more will be joining. Maybe S will just take some time getting use to there being a 3rd.

Whats up with R not telling his parents that he has 3 wives?
Interesting inside look, LISM! You are all so different - and the one with the religious beliefs seems to find it the hardest. She sounds tremendously insecure. Wonder if she was always like that, or if it started with the second marriage?

You also explain why a lot of polygamists have a tradition of keeping smooching behind the bedroom door. It's hard for other wives to watch.

Reminds me of Nicki flipping out when she saw Bill and Margie having sex. It's one thing to know about it (or even hear it, I guess, in Margie's case), but to see it...well...

Sounds as if she's trying to mark her territory...
I don't know, LISM, I really like you but I actually feel sorry for S after reading this...

Sounds like she's trying frantically to bond, and bonds through talking. Needs the religious nuttiness to help her deal with the polygamy she never wanted, would, as you say, kiss you if you let her, so emotionally needy that it's probably VERY hard to share this man she used to have all to herself.

And her "sister-wives" can't stand her and since opening her home she's become a bit of a joke both to them and her husband. Ouch.

Does she ever listen to YOUR life story? Or is she unable to shut up long enough? Maybe she needs to hear the story of how you fell for R, a few times.

Funny how there are people you could talk to for 5 hours and not notice, and others where 2 hours seems impossibly long.