I am kinda out there now I think, if anyone is paying attention to what I say the past couple of days. Thanks to your encouragement I might add

I almost regret coming down on Tess as hard as I did. It's not normally my style, but I'm that way, I will wait and watch then pounce like a mother hen..or is that a mother bear? oh well.

So you know, lol none of us in our household are as young or frisky as at Fen's house! wow I'm truly impressed but let me tell you it's more than impressed with the sex.

I think the "in love" and "love" thing are so crucial to poly marriages or relationships. It's so hard because obviously the new wife well yanno? lol Here's the deal with us in Texas:
I truly think I wouldn't have been as accepted by T & S if we had come to them about us earlier on. While the keeping the true nature of our relationship from them disturbed us both, R was very wise to wait. Well truthfully he blurted it out one night at the dinner table when I wasn't there but lol he got moved to the guest room for a day.
Well so you see ..it was wise.
I was almost not the newest one by the way. About um oh over a year ago he thought he fell "in love" with a woman T & S knew but I didn't. I immediately said oh no you don't. Sorry but I"m very honest. Well guess what? After only a couple of weeks of courtship and trying to mesh her into the family, T & S said no way too. The powerful "in love" vibe was just too much for anyone to accept unfortunately for R however he now concedes she wasn't right for the family! yay!
What is troublesome to females in this situation I think is that as T has pointed out, we don't get to court again. So Fen wisely has said, the husband has to take great care! He is so so correct.
Perhaps Fen's sensitivity to women's feelings is the reason he has the floodgate of love at the moment!
The packing is not going well, as you can see I'm procrastinating right now. It's a difficult task. We decided that I would only bring a couple of pieces of furniture. I won't be moving directly in to the house we bought. R really feels I need to "integrate" more before spreading my wings lol. He is right about this, sigh. I will do my best to make some compromises and the good thing is~ he is expecting them to as well.
I'm excited. I can't wait. AND I'm nervous all at once!! Wow and I'm gonna be a grandma soon too!..oh, I have started to warn and make inroads on the subject with my oldest son. Funny thing is though, he keeps referring to T&S and R's ex wives! He'll see eventually and hopefully by that time he won't care

I get to pick out paint and carpet this week! WITHOUT compromising! halleluiah