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Hello, I am a second wife in a 2 wife marriage, my husband had his first wife in 1997 and then me in 2001. He has 4 children with her and we are working on children of our own. We all live under the same roof and sometimes it can be tough, but this show has gotten me through tough times. We don't share the same beliefs as the prophets, we are average christians, and it just worked out this way, my husband does not have the option of a third wife. LOLOLOL that has been agreed by both myself and my sister wife.
I love margene because she is so sweet and doesn't get involved and I love her for that, she's honest and reasonable.
Again thanks for Big Love and getting me through the tough times!!!
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Re: Happy this show came out!! (2nd Wife)
Feb 24, 2009 6:28 PM
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> > > Gay men marrying women have NOTHING to do with
> this discussion.
> > Oh my, well look who has their little narrow-minded
> blinders on. Yer so fullashit.
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> Ah, yes, another fallacy. Le'ts see which one this
> is.
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> Ah, here we are: Ad Hominem
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> Name calling doesn't in any way accomplish the task
> of proving what I've said to be incorrect.
You are such a good sport, Ameera.
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Re: Happy this show came out!! (2nd Wife)
Feb 24, 2009 6:27 PM
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> Underage marriage/sex is another contridiction. I
> totally agree that underage marriage and sex
> shouldn't be condoned. But, I work in a school where
> I see 16,17,&18 year old pregnant girls. Some girls
> are pregnant for the second or third time. Their
> baby daddies are much older than they are and have
> other girlfriends at the same time and have many
> children whom they cannot support. And it is all
> perfectly legal.
How is it all "perfectly legal" if the girls are underage? I don't understand that.
I really don't understand the way men think sometimes. They want to be all over the place having sex, and they want the women to be faithful to them, and they think it should be just fine with everybody.
Well, it isn't. If you want someone's undying devotion and faithfulness, grow up and be faithful to them, for crissake.
Women are just as tempted to cheat, as men. Men are just as capable of controlling their libidos as women.
And no, gay men shouldn't marry women. Maybe clergymen and gay-bashing morons should stop ordering them to do so.
But nobody's ordering men to cheat on their wives or knock up high school age girls. There's no tremendous social pressure on straight men to be unfaithful, the way there is on gay men to conceal that they are gay.
Straight men who are incapable of monogamy could simply live single and play the field, or they could have open relationships where the woman was allowed as much freedom sexually as the man. (Men hate this, because the woman ends up getting 5 propositions to his one, every time.)
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Re: Happy this show came out!! (2nd Wife)
Feb 24, 2009 4:21 PM
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there is indeed the practice of women having multiple husbands. the masai tribe from the horn of africa practices this and i know there are other regions of the world like india and sri lanka where this is practiced. and while i have no idea how true this is, i've also heard that some of joseph smith's wives had other husbands--with his approval--so i guess they just had one big ole party!
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Re: Happy this show came out!! (2nd Wife)
Feb 24, 2009 3:32 PM
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> > Gay men marrying women have NOTHING to do with this discussion.
> Oh my, well look who has their little narrow-minded blinders on. Yer so fullashit.
Ah, yes, another fallacy. Le'ts see which one this is.
Ah, here we are: Ad Hominem
Name calling doesn't in any way accomplish the task of proving what I've said to be incorrect.
You say I have "narrow-minded blinders on" and I'm "fullashit" -- prove it. 
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"If we give the money to the widows, they will spend it unwisely because they are uneducated and they dont know about budgeting. But if we find her a husband, there will be a person in charge of her and her children for the rest of their lives."
MAZIN al-SHIHAN, director of a city agency in Baghdad, on his plan to pay men to marry Iraqi war widows.
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Re: Happy this show came out!! (2nd Wife)
Feb 24, 2009 3:26 PM
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> JH, if you need to reconsider your opinion because
> I've stated my own, maybe you're not so sure of what
> you're saying -- maybe you don't know your own mind.
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Hey, that could be, I'll take it under advisement.
> JH, you're the king when it comes to using red
> herring fallacies and trying to pass them off as
> legitimate arguments.
Wow! And the only thing my wife ever called me the king of was the king of late. Well, finally some respect.
> Gay men marrying women have NOTHING to do with this
> discussion.
Oh my, well look who has their little narrow-minded blinders on. Yer so fullashit.
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Re: Happy this show came out!! (2nd Wife)
Feb 24, 2009 3:23 PM
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Love to see how'd that go down!!! She's unhappily married, starts an affair with the electrician, still not happy starts with the landscaper, the melts for the plumber and they all lived happily ever after??? too funny.
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Re: Happy this show came out!! (2nd Wife)
Feb 24, 2009 3:18 PM
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> >> The "other woman" syndrome is just one of the
> >> things that happen when you try to fit men who
> >> are not naturally monogamous into this
> >>monogamous society that we arrive in.
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> > What a bunch of nonsense.
> Damn and it made such perfect sense to me. Maybe
> I'll have to reconsider since the world's arbiter of
> nonsense has weighed in.
JH, if you need to reconsider your opinion because I've stated my own, maybe you're not so sure of what you're saying -- maybe you don't know your own mind.
>> Every individual has the ability to make choices
>> Men who believe that they are not naturally
>> monogamous should not get married and willingly
>> make vows to another person that they
>>believe they cannot keep.
>Yeah and men who believe they are gay probly >shouldn't marry women either -- but it sure doesn't >stop em does it?
>I think your answer to that question should probly >alleviate the neesssity to deal with the rest of this.
JH, you're the king when it comes to using red herring fallacies and trying to pass them off as legitimate arguments.
Gay men marrying women have NOTHING to do with this discussion.
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"If we give the money to the widows, they will spend it unwisely because they are uneducated and they don?t know about budgeting. But if we find her a husband, there will be a person in charge of her and her children for the rest of their lives."
MAZIN al-SHIHAN, director of a city agency in Baghdad, on his plan to pay men to marry Iraqi war widows.
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Re: Happy this show came out!! (2nd Wife)
Feb 24, 2009 3:16 PM
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> Yeah why would i wanna punish myself like that??? One
> husband is enough of a chore for me!!!lol I leave
> that up to some one with more energy...
Well, maybe Olsen & Sheffer will go there next.
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Re: Happy this show came out!! (2nd Wife)
Feb 24, 2009 3:14 PM
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Yeah why would i wanna punish myself like that??? One husband is enough of a chore for me!!!lol I leave that up to some one with more energy...
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Re: Happy this show came out!! (2nd Wife)
Feb 24, 2009 3:11 PM
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ther here is a good plot story line for yer little exciting drama:
A bachelor marries an old maid and they have a bunch of little orphans.
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Re: Happy this show came out!! (2nd Wife)
Feb 24, 2009 3:10 PM
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> It's so true...I'd love to see a woman with multiple
> husbands and her directing them...You go cut the fire
> wood, you go hang the pictures, you fix the plumbing
> and you take your shirt off get all sweaty and
> glistening while i watch you mow the lawn. Every one
> else watch the kids and find something productive to
> do!!!!
I think you've got a perfect handle on how it should be done SD, whats stoppin ya?
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Feb 24, 2009 3:01 PM
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It's so true...I'd love to see a woman with multiple husbands and her directing them...You go cut the fire wood, you go hang the pictures, you fix the plumbing and you take your shirt off get all sweaty and glistening while i watch you mow the lawn. Every one else watch the kids and find something productive to do!!!!
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Re: Happy this show came out!! (2nd Wife)
Feb 24, 2009 2:57 PM
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Underage marriage/sex is another contridiction. I totally agree that underage marriage and sex shouldn't be condoned. But, I work in a school where I see 16,17,&18 year old pregnant girls. Some girls are pregnant for the second or third time. Their baby daddies are much older than they are and have other girlfriends at the same time and have many children whom they cannot support. And it is all perfectly legal.
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Re: Happy this show came out!! (2nd Wife)
Feb 24, 2009 2:53 PM
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> I am very selfish. My husband is my husband. I am not willing to share. But there are a lot of double standards that are not right and still they stand. And a lot of women have that sort of self esteem issue. He's too good for me..i have to hold on to him. I can't lose him. Not right but it's the way people feel.
Sonya, I don't consider it selfish to expect to be treated with the same respect and consideration that you yourself would give to your husband.
I really personally feel it is a double standard, and one has to wonder at the audacity of a person who says, I want to do this BUT YOU CAN'T.
That's my only issue with polygamy, but of course, it should be reiterated that this is MY issue.
Anyone who has no problem with this double standard should be free to do what they want.
I think the issue that many find unattractive about polygamy is the subliminal manipulation that "seems" (please let me reemphasize SEEMS) to be taking place.
When you're giving someone ultimatums, outlining for them rules they should follow, but that you are exempt from, assigning them roles and restricting their freedom to do what they want, that smacks of manipulation to me. But like I said, maybe that's just me.
And of course, a person with self esteem issues is ripe pickings for a person who wants to dominate them.
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Re: Happy this show came out!! (2nd Wife)
Feb 24, 2009 2:53 PM
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> > The "other woman" syndrome is just one of the
> things that happen when you try to fit men who are
> not naturally monogamous into this monogamous society
> that we arrive in.
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> What a bunch of nonsense.
Damn and it made such perfect sense to me. Maybe I'll have to reconsider since the world's arbiter of nonsense has weighed in.
> Every individual has the
> ability to make choices. Men who believe that they
> are not naturally monogamous should not get married
> and willingly make vows to another person that they
> believe they cannot keep.
Yeah and men who believe they are gay probly shouldn't marry women either -- but it sure doesn't stop em does it?
I think your answer to that question should probly alleviate the neesssity to deal with the rest of this.
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"Can't we all just get along?" That 'famous philosopher' Rodney King and my Nicki
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