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This is not directly a SATC post, but you guys have helped me with situations in the past, and I'd like to pick your brain on something that I'm going through.
About me:
I am recently engaged to a beautiful girl. I am 30, I am friendly and popular, and I consider myself to be an all around good guy. Likely the most trustworthy person in my group of friends.
About my situation:
Ever since my engagement, my popularity around other women has gone through the roof (from both single and married), but not in a romantic way (I don't think). My best friend has been dating his 20 yr old girl for about 2 years, and her friends have always been huge fans of me, but mostly in a big brother way (I figured this because when I was single, none of them were interested in being more than friends). But over the past few weeks, it seems that each of these ten girls in the group have approached me, been more suggestive, and have been super flirty (when my fiance is not around of course). Even my buddies have noticed this and they call me the TEFLON DON (it seems I can get away with anything because it all deflects off)
Now I'm not trying toot my own horn, nor am I thinking of cheating in any way. But I am very curious on your interpretation of the situation. Am I special? Or is this is a classic case of wanting what you can't have. Maybe its a case that these young women have a newfound attraction to older men? To me its strange that all of these girls have voluntarily expressed their attraction to me in separate occassions. It sometimes feels like they have an unspoken competition to see who can break me first.
Thoughts, anyone?
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Re: What is it about married men?
Sep 25, 2009 9:10 PM
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Succintly put, Jrenai.
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Re: What is it about married men?
Sep 23, 2009 10:39 AM
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you stopped flying your freak flag or whatever flag you were flying........... no pressure, releases the best of anyone
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Edited by jrenai at 09/23/2009 7:40 AM PDT
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Re: What is it about married men?
Sep 9, 2009 12:42 PM
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I hope you have not been swayed into a bad choice since you first posted. I don't know if it's true that women -- or even people in general -- want what they can't have. However, in your case, though, it's easy. You've proven that you can commit.
As a single woman who eventually would like to settle down, separating the commitment-phobes from my dating pool is job-one and the hardest job. Since you've already proven yourself commitment-friendly by becoming engaged, any twit with a mission, an ego and low morals will throw herself in your current relationship's way.
These are dangerous women because they are too lazy or selfish to put in the work to define, work for earn what they want. They would rather steal it from someone else. Not to bruise your ego -- i'm sure you're a total hottie  -- but GIRLS like these view you as easy prey. If you're happy with your choice, stick with it. All the best to you both.
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Re: What is it about married men?
Feb 19, 2009 4:55 AM
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(Some) Women want what they can't have, what they know is off limits. Women (some) find a man attractive when they he has the qualities she is looking for, all be it qualities wraped up in another woman....I've heard many times that a man wearing a ring only makes him more noticed.
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What is it about married men?
Jan 27, 2009 3:58 PM
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This is not directly a SATC post, but you guys have helped me with situations in the past, and I'd like to pick your brain on something that I'm going through.
About me:
I am recently engaged to a beautiful girl. I am 30, I am friendly and popular, and I consider myself to be an all around good guy. Likely the most trustworthy person in my group of friends.
About my situation:
Ever since my engagement, my popularity around other women has gone through the roof (from both single and married), but not in a romantic way (I don't think). My best friend has been dating his 20 yr old girl for about 2 years, and her friends have always been huge fans of me, but mostly in a big brother way (I figured this because when I was single, none of them were interested in being more than friends). But over the past few weeks, it seems that each of these ten girls in the group have approached me, been more suggestive, and have been super flirty (when my fiance is not around of course). Even my buddies have noticed this and they call me the TEFLON DON (it seems I can get away with anything because it all deflects off)
Now I'm not trying toot my own horn, nor am I thinking of cheating in any way. But I am very curious on your interpretation of the situation. Am I special? Or is this is a classic case of wanting what you can't have. Maybe its a case that these young women have a newfound attraction to older men? To me its strange that all of these girls have voluntarily expressed their attraction to me in separate occassions. It sometimes feels like they have an unspoken competition to see who can break me first.
Thoughts, anyone?
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